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"Re: Equality: The Value of a Male Life is Equal to a Female Lie
"I have a first hand experience where my son was blamed for "sexual assault" of a young teen-aged girl. The "assault" quickly turned to "sexual assault" and then "rape" in the community. It was in the local paper of the SMALL town we live in. Because this "incident" apparently happened during a school function the police that were called in by the girl's mother said they were going to turn the matter over to the school to handle. (The community could have had the common sense to put two and two together....a legit "rape" or "sexual assault" case wouldn't be passed off to a school principle to deal with but of course no-one paid any attention to *that*.)
"Anyway...it was absolutely brutal...the whole community threw their two cents in, the school board administration behaved in what I saw to be a truly "sell out" pathetic fashion and I was deeply disappointed and ashamed of how they turned on this young boy to prove that they "took a stand against bullies" just because this was the fashionable thing to do as though there was some big message here for the teenage boys of the community....like..."watch out because we're watching you and this could happen to YOU if you're not careful".
"It was a horribly costly thing....the school board's lawyers (were there to cover their own asses in case we decided to go after the school board)... which, by the way the taxpayers had to pay for I'm sure. "Big" meetings where we had to sit in front of many and plead our "case"...it was a very frightening kangaroo court for both of us.
"It completely turned my family upside down....I was a basket case and could hardly believe that this could happen to us. I behaved *very* poorly to my son and the very first person he had to defend himself to was me. his own mother. Being female and someone who is "terrified" of rape, I was tough on him. Here's the thing, the stories were so convoluted and not one of the other boys that were there spoke up in his defense that at first I honestly thought there something wrong with his story and so he couldn't possibly be telling me the truth.
"When I think about how rough I was on him my heart breaks at how that must have been for him. Having his own mother screaming like a bloody banshee and taking out every thing I ever had against a man out on him (or so it seemed....I *really* behaved like an idiot).
"My kid got suspended from school....we had to grovel to get him back in. He had to undergo counseling at the school (what everyone thought was for the "infraction" but as I attended a few of these sessions I learned that it was really to help him cope with the nightmare of all that happened *and* once again "the powers that be" had to come out smelling like roses somehow, even if it was only to our family)
"It was the worst Christmas for my family. I *know* that incident scarred my relationship with my son. I behaved badly and he certainly had the opportunity to really get a good look at who would be in his corner during his times of need.
"Here's how the big "community saga" ended. The girl admitted to all the kids at the skating rink 3 months later that she had lied. In fact, my son only placed his hand on her shoulder. He was a sweet 11 yr old when that happened.
"I get it. You *bet* it's nasty out there for men. And what makes it scarier in my eyes is when women don't see it, don't want to see it and don't care.
"Thank you for your post. In my responding it actually gave me a chance to voice my feelings to someone who I think would even care.
"I believe that what is going on is having a *huge* impact and it has to shift otherwise all hell's gonna break loose."
In reply to this, I left the following brief statement on the thread:
Donna, your comment has floored me. I am. . . .SPEECHLESS!
So I won't try to say very much, because I'm pretty sure it would only sound lame .
HOWEVER. . . I will take your words and post them on my blog (the Counter-Feminist), because more people need to be exposed to such things.
Oh yes, some of my readers are feminists. And boy... they REALLY need to get their faces rubbed in such things!!
All the best to you! :)