A Message from David
However, even without looking, I can offer one bit of speculation. Really, it is simple. I would ask the blogmaster over there WHY women should go through life expecting people to BUY things for them? Is that not the part of a small child, play such a role? Don't we all eventually (at least in theory) grow up, and live as adults, putting away childish ways and paying for stuff our own damn selves? And when somebody BUYS something for us, do we not consider that a gift, an uncoerced, exceptional act which happens just occasionally, and worthy of special gratitude precisely by reason of its specialness?
That, or somewhat to that effect, is what I would say over at the Stone Jars website. And I would cap it off by very nonchalantly asking the blogmaster if he considers himself a feminist, and upon what criteria or criterion he grounds his self-assessment.
Note what I am doing in all of the above: I am simply posing QUESTIONS.
But enough already. Here is David's comment:
"Hi, everybody -
"Fidelbogen, I don't know whether you permit these sorts of comments on your blog. If you don't, I'm sure you'll let me know, and of course I will happily acquiesce. However I thought it was worth a shot.
"There is a little battle I'm fighting at a website called Six Stone Jars. It's a Catholic website about dating and it's the stomping ground of many a white knight, pedestalizer, mangina, and, of course, our good friend the testicle-crushing dominatrix. If you ask me, it's exactly where a militant MRA belongs. After all, the soldier best serves his purpose on the battlefield. Tell me I'm wrong.
"What may not be clear from a cursory scan of the site is that the author, though I would certainly consider him a good man, consistently takes men to task for various bad things we tend to do. By comparison he disciplines women very lightly - though he often praises their intrinsic value as women. None of these things, I would say, are bad in themselves; the problem, rather is what he does not do. By failing to take women to task as he does men, and by failing to praise men as fathers and husbands, Anthony Buono is subtly and unintentionally perpetuating the men/bad women/good meme. This is his crime against men.
"The topic of discussion today is whether men should pay the full bill on a date. Seems innocuous enough, right? Well, follow the below link and tell me whether anything troubles you:
"The guy named "David" in the commentary is me. I am getting whipped by white knights and man-eating dominatrices. Their weapon is shaming language, inarticulate and irrational arguments their pretext. I could use some help. It's not that I think we will change minds, at least not completely. But I am easily dismissed while I fight alone. And what is the point of the MRM if not to guarantee no man fights alone?
"Help me, brothers.
"A final note - if you are interested in helping, bear in mind this is a chill, genteel Catholic website. The author moderates all comments. You will want to temper your language, refraining, as much as possible, from insults and curses. Otherwise your comments will simply not be posted. [I would recommend keeping a backup copy so you can share what you said, even if it doesn't survive moderation! -Fidelbogen]
"Do help me out. I would do the same for you."