Monday, July 23, 2012

Domestic Violence Shelter for Men -- Help Out With Funding!

There are almost no domestic violence shelters for men in the United States, although there are hundreds for women. Yes, we all know that men are victims of  DV in roughly half of all cases, and women in the other half. But despite the symmetry, only a fraction of one percent of all U.S. shelters accept male victims. In light of the situation, that sounds a trifle unbalanced. Don't you think so?

Why, you would think that with men being half of all DV victims, the shelters would populate themselves accordingly.  You'd think they would do that, wouldn't you? I mean, that would be eminently reasonable,  wouldn't it? Surely it is a grotesque double standard that men, who are fully half of all domestic violence victims, cannot find refuge from violent women.

And yet the feminists give the dagger an extra twist when they proclaim that men commit a whopping 95% of all domestic violence. That is what the feminists say, and they have been saying it for thirty years or more! I think it is ironic and revealing that the false ratio of 95% male perpetrators to 5% female perpetrators so closely mimics the disproportionality of shelter services available to men and women respectively.

But it doesn't stop there. For not only do the feminists blame men for the bulk all of domestic violence, but they actually pretend to know what motivates such behavior. Now, the following might seem to imply that the feminists have unnatural omniscience or clairvoyance, but this is them talking, not me. Get ready. They have repeatedly informed us, over the years, that men commit domestic violence because they (men) wish to exert "patriarchal power and control" over women! No, I am not making that up. The feminists really do say that!

Proof? They don't need any bloody proof! They're feminists, so they can pull  "facts" out of their ass any time they wish to do so. And why? Because they're "the women's movement", that's why!

Now, you and I know perfectly well that a man might take a pop at his wife for any number of reasons, and that most of these have fuck all to do with so-called  "patriarchy". For example, she might have nagged him beyond endurance while he suffered from an agonizing toothache -- or some equally poignant scenario. Furthermore, you and I might reasonably demand to know where in hell the feminists get their intimate knowledge about millions of people they've never even met. Have the feminists got surveillance gear and paid informants to keep tabs on every single household in the country? Is there a board-certified "feminist-in-residence" sitting at every family dinner table, taking notes about the socio-dynamics? Do they know for a certifiable FACT that every time a man slaps his woman around,  he is driven by strictly  "patriarchal" motives, and none other?

But rest assured, my friend, they're feminists. So they can pull  "facts" out of their ass any time they wish to do so. And why? Because they're "the women's movement", that's why!

All right. Not only do the feminists lie through their teeth when they say that men commit the bulk of all domestic violence, but they turn around and lie about the motivational underpinning of the same very behavior they lied about in the first place. So yes, they stack one lie on top of another, and they shamelessly repeat this over and over and over . .  and they never quit!

And mark my words, they never will. Or not unless they are compelled, in some harsh way, to do so.

But the reason I am writing this now, is to tell you about a man in Ohio who plans to open a domestic violence shelter for men. And he is in the fund-raising stage this very minute. He needs to pull together $100,000, and so far he has $110, so clearly he has a way to go. But he means to bank the proceeds of the present campaign and immediately run another campaign in order to secure the necessary money. Go here to read all about it:

This, indeed, is activism to help men. And in the fullness of my heart I salute all such efforts. I want to see these efforts multiply, succeed wildly, and then multiply some more. To my mind, helping men and damaging feminism cannot be viewed in isolation from each other. The two are intertwined and indeed morally identical, so take your pick because it's six of one and half-a-dozen of the other.  In the near future, I will chip in $50 toward this men's domestic violence shelter. Then I will turn again to my own way of helping men -- by savaging feminism with words and encouraging a culture of counter-feminist mockery that will force feminism to crawl back under the nearest convenient rock.


Anonymous Canaryguy said...

A perfect opportunity for what I call "Charity of the Month". They're at $235 now. *sigh*

11:45 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

My x husband was abused by his new wife for 11 yrs. Domestic charges were filed against him 2x which were dropped by her. These rages his wife had were always over my son & me. I could never figure that one out. Needless to say my x was framed by his wife (and her new boyfriend). He went to trial & did not get to testify in his own behalf (lawyers advice). He is now serving 13-18 months in prison for a crime he did not commit. An appeal has been filed, he shares the cell with a convicted murderer. Where has our justice system gone.. Our families are in pain & most of all my son. This women made 6 years of his childhood a pure hell. I cried many a night wondering if she was going to hurt him when his father wasn't around. I never was afraid of my x. So please say a prayer for out family. There are many bad people in this world and women aren't exempt.

Advice well come.


2:41 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

You took the words right out of my mouth. While there are still true feminists out there who practice real feminism (actual equality for both sides), most simply CLAIM that's what they are, while really, they're just centred around women. They realize that by puttin themselves at a "feminist" status, that they aren't really obligated to care about men's issues, and so they don't. Domesic violence is certainly one f the cases. Another common one - rape. People are brainwashed by feminists to think that only women can be rape victims, because men are strong enough to always fight it off, or when a female is the rapist, that men are all sex-craved pigs who wanna get laid ALL THE TIME. But really, all four types of rape exist - male-on-female, female-on-female, male-on-male, female-on-male. And they all happen more than you think. But like you brought up, a lot of cases, especially the female-on-male cases, don't get reported, because the victims are embarassed to, or that they know no one will listen to them anyways. Like, seriously, the justice system has been affected greatly by feminazism. So much that when a male victim reports something like domestic violence or rape, it isn't uncommon for him to get mocked and ridiculed. *Sigh* sad to see what this world has become in so little time.

9:06 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Men becoming wise to the DV charges and the blow back is increased charges against women.

Even though woman are thought of being the victims most of the time, they have to be careful because men are getting smarter and turning the tables on them. DV laws cover everyone not just women.

1:48 AM  
Blogger Searching for Avila said...

I read your blogpost here and it's filled with an unnecessary level of anger. Also, it comes off as extremely misogynistic. You're not going to accomplish much if you're just spewing hate toward the other side. I'm a feminist and I put a huge importance on men's rights. I am currently in the process of researching men's domestic violence centers so that I can do something about the lack of them in my community (i.e. America). I'm starting an awareness project with gold ribbons to raise awareness for specifically Men's Domestic Abuse/Sexual Abuse. Anyway, my point is that no one will accomplish anything by just railing at the other side. You have to actually -do- something about it. Instead of just calling Feminists "evil liars" why don't you shed some light with statistics?

"About 3% of American men — or 1 in 33 — have experienced an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime.

In 2003, 1 in every ten rape victims were male.
2.78 million men in the U.S. have been victims of sexual assault or rape."

Look, my boyfriend was a victim of sexual and physical abuse from his father, and I take this cause very seriously.

9:46 AM  
Blogger Fidelbogen said...

Thank you for making clear that you are a feminist.

Your behavior here is undiplomatic. What the hell makes you think you can come waltzing into a non-feminist space and tell the "natives" what's what, anyway?

Feminist, you've got one hell of a nerve!

Don't tell us what "unnecessary" anger is -- nobody gave you the authority to judge that. You are welcome to your opinion, but merely stating that something is so does not make it so. No, not even a feminist may exercise such power, and especially not around here!

And if you can justify the libellous suggestion that there is any "misogyny" in this post (extreme or otherwise), then you'd better get cracking!

I will wait.

9:03 PM  
Blogger Searching for Avila said...

In your post, you state:
"Proof? They don't need any bloody proof! They're feminists, so they can pull "facts" out of their ass any time they wish to do so. And why? Because they're "the women's movement", that's why!"
In this statement, you are saying that women (esp. feminists) don't need proof because they're "the women's movement." You also say that they all "lie through their teeth." This is misogynistic and hypocritical. There's not a single source in -your- post. Who's to say -you're- not the one lying and pulling facts out of your ass?

Your comment doesn't make any sense. You tell me that I "am welcome to [my] opinion" and then tell me "You've got one hell of a nerve... waltzing into a non-feminist space." Nothing I did or said was undiplomatic. I just said your post came off as really angry and hateful toward women, which it is (specifically, feminist women, who -are- women). You don't even seem to have read my post! You just saw that I "was a feminist" and decided I was the enemy. You're not going to -accomplish- anything if you act that way. This isn't a feminist entering a non-feminist space. This is a human entering a space of anger and hatred and trying to bring peace.

9:10 PM  
Blogger Fidelbogen said...

Baloney! Go back and read those words again. There is no statement against women. "Feminists" are mentioned, and the fact that they call themselves "the women's movement". But nothing in those words says anything about women.

And you had better think again about your undiplomatic behavior. When you approach an enemy in time of war, you do not talk as you have talked here, feminist.

You are entering a non-feminist space, feminist.

Is that so hard to comprehend?

I did not "decide" that you are the enemy. You ARE the enemy. That is the present historical reality.

Maybe you are just naive?

But if you wish to negotiate, then state your business. I am willing to cut you some slack if you mend your tone.

You can start by admitting that your imputation of "misogyny" is unfounded.

10:49 PM  
Blogger Searching for Avila said...

I'm pretty sure you have a personality disorder. So congrats on that.

My "imputation" of misogyny isn't wrong, as feminists are (predominantly) women. It's a movement -about- women, and your main goal is "savaging feminism with words and encouraging a culture of counter-feminist mockery." This is anti-women. You say "helping men and damaging feminism" are "morally identical." You are waging a war on women. You are against women. You have a problem with women.

Who do you think is in charge of funding for shelters? It's the government. Who is in charge of the government? It's men. Who has been in charge of society for the last 200 years? It's men. Who is the one saying that men can't possibly be victims of sexual/physical abuse, because that's "not manly"--it's men. It's just as much men as it is women, if not more so. You -can't- just blame feminists, because that is -wrong-. If you want to help men so much, you should be creating a society that helps men--not one that attacks women.

5:19 AM  
Blogger Fidelbogen said...

Personality disorder? No. This is political, not personal.

Your imputation of misogyny is incorrect.

Feminism =/= Women.

Do you follow?

You must demonstrate that women as a demographic class are under attack.

Can you do that?

If you can't, and yet continue to see misogyny in the statement, then you will fail at basic logic.

Furthermore, you will demonstrate why so many people think feminists are "not right in the head".

The rest of your comment is deflectionary, so I will not address it.

So, once again, why are you here? Are you under the flag of truce, or under the flag of war? Do you wish to negotiate the co-existence of feminism with the rest of the world, or don't you?

Refrain from comments of a personal nature. We do not mix the personal with the political.

Refrain from all undiplomatic language, and state your business.

I will be patient with you.

6:25 AM  
Blogger Searching for Avila said...
There. That's an article that's actually about helping men, and not about attacking women.
“I think male bipeds should get some support services before we start opening up temporary shelters for cats, dogs and hamsters,” said Dr. Tara J. Palmatier, a psychologist who runs the Shrink4Men website.
Dr Palmatier began Shrink4Men because she recognized that men who are in abusive relationships in which the perpetrator is a woman do not have the same support resources as their female counterparts.

Right. So there's a woman who's doing more to help men than you'll ever do.

I'll negotiate the co-existence of feminism with the rest of the world, but I won't do it with you. You're unimportant. Peace.

7:35 AM  
Blogger Fidelbogen said...

Yes, I know all about Dr. T, (who is affiliated with horrible people like Paul Elam, John the Other, and the whole AVfM crowd.. The same people I'm affiliated with!)

So save your breath and don't tell me about Dr. T.

By the way, Dr. T talks mighty wicked against feminists ....or didn't you know that?

I reckon you didn't.

So you need to get out more, and pay attention to the world.

But anyhow, you needn't negotiate with me if you don't wish to do so. Feel free to negotiate with GirlWritesWhat, that'll work okay-fine.

Peace. ;)

1:26 PM  
Blogger Fidelbogen said...

Oh..and you are still pedaling that libellous crap about "attacking women", but you still refuse to prove it or justify it. You just can't stop lying, can you feminist?

Explain why attacking feminism = attacking women.

But you will never do this because you are too chickenshit to stand behind it.

1:29 PM  
Blogger Searching for Avila said...

Attacking feminism is attacking women because feminism is the women's movement. You said that yourself.

And you're wrong about Dr. Tara Palmatier. She doesn't "talk wicked" about feminists; She "talks wicked" about people who are under the delusions of false realities. She talks a lot about how men and women should be equal, how they should both have the same rights, how they can both be dangerous, etc, but she does not "talk wicked against feminists" so maybe -you- need to get out more and pay attention to the world.

1:38 PM  
Blogger Fidelbogen said...

Feminism is called "the women's movement" by certain people. How is it attacking women to attack some abstract thing called "the women's movement"?

And yes, Dr. T talks wicked about people (such as feminists) who are under the delusions of false realities. That is why she is associated with the notorious AVfM website, which talks wicked about feminists. (I am one of the writers there, by the way.)

2:03 PM  
Blogger Searching for Avila said...

Why would you call AVfM notorious if you write there? Shouldn't you be claiming that it's good or something?

Look, let's say, hypothetically, that your post isn't misogynistic. I would argue it is because you're attacking feminism, which is pro-women's rights. But regardless, let's say it's not. Your post still doesn't site any meaningful statistics.

I also want to note that I am a feminist, but I wouldn't pretend that 95% of domestic violence was committed by men. That's not -true- and it's not a belief held by most feminists. We don't blame men for the bulk of domestic violence. (You don't even bother to site sources to back this up, so the reader just assumes you're making it up because you have some sort of problem with women.) No one commits domestic violence to exert patriarchal power over their victims. That's ridiculous. People commit domestic violence because they have mental problems. Regardless, you keep quoting these statements about feminism as if they're true and then fail to supply evidence of them.

My main point was that you're not good at writing articles. You use over-the-top pathos and language and you don't support it with any facts. I guess that puts you in the same camp as those "lying feminists" doesn't it?

2:17 PM  

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